Episode 108 | Faulty Conclusions that Limit Our Lives

We view our lives and the world through a perspective we didn’t intentionally choose for ourselves.

We naturally adopt the belief systems shared by those in our lives who hold influence… parents, family, friends, clergy, teachers, etc. 

We then naturally compare ourselves and evaluate our lives through that perspective. 

This leads us to draw conclusions about how we need to be different, or learn more, before we can experience the greatest things life has to offer.

But what if we’re wrong?

What if life isn’t actually a journey to become someone different than you are… but, rather, an opportunity to remember who you’ve always been?

What if that perspective you’ve adopted is just hiding the truth of your nature?

I believe it is. In this episode I share why. 

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Faulty conclusions that limit our lives. That's what we're talking about in episode 108. Hey there, I'm Cari Wise, after graduating from veterinary school over 20 years ago, struggling to create balance and failing to protect my mental health and emotional wellbeing, I finally ditched all the rules and forged my own path forward. I used my professional education in ways I didn't even know were possible.

And through that journey, I developed a deep sense of who I am, a brand new set of skills, and a clear understanding of what I'm meant to contribute to the world. Each week here in the Intentional Joy Podcast, I'll share what I've learned along the way in order to help you develop your own deep sense of personal identity and connection with yourself so you can live an empowered life on your terms too.

This is what I call aligned living and it begins with intentional joy. So if you're ready to claim this for yourself, let's call my friends. Welcome to episode 108. Today we're gonna be talking about faulty conclusions. And the truth is that we are drawing faulty conclusions all the time. We're actually conditioned to continue to do so, but it has a really negative and wide span kind of impact on us.

When we do that, we have to understand what's happening before we can change it. So let's take a step back and really let me explain what I'm talking about. I'm talking about what leads us to draw opinions about ourselves, whether we are good or bad, whether we are more than or less than better or worse all the time in our environment, in our lives,

we are constantly comparing ourselves to other people and we use that comparison as a point, an anchor point through which to evaluate what is possible for us in the future. This is really important for us to understand that what's happening because all of it, this constant comparison, this constant state of evaluation, this constant conclusion that we are less than. Because let's face it,

more often than not, when you're comparing yourself to somebody else, you're not coming out on the upside of that. This constant comparison that we do though it puts us into a place of reinforcing a belief system that is actually completely false. And this is the heart of why I wanted to record this episode today. So I wanna think about our lives and I wanna think about the state of our lives and the things that we have done.

And I'm pretty sure you just like me, can come up with a list of achievements, things that you have been successful in, things that you believe that where you have succeeded. For any of you out there with a professional degree, part of your success has been completing your degree program. So that's just one type of example. But along with all of those,

those successes, those achievements that we can list, we also can list out a whole bunch of failures. Areas where we came up short from where we wanted to be, areas where we are not as good as we want to be, that we aren't as happy as we wanna be, where we are more anxious than we want to be. We can come up with all of these areas where we just aren't meeting the expectations or the goals or the dreams that we have for our lives.

And as we are able to recognize that discrepancy, that gap between what we want and what we have, we automatically start to draw more conclusions. And these conclusions are really faulty conclusions that if we don't recognize them and interrupt them and reframe them, they really do change what happens next. So as we look at our at ourselves and evaluate ourselves through this lens of comparison and we fall short,

we start to then compound a belief system that we aren't good enough, that we just aren't as good as they are. We can also compound a belief system that we have more to learn, that we have to figure it out, that we aren't smart enough, that we just must have something wrong with us because we keep repeating the same thing over and over again and we never make change from it.

We never get a different result. We keep trying and trying and trying, but we just can't figure out how to get a different outcome, how to be happier, how to achieve what it is that we wanna achieve. And when we repeat that pattern enough times, we draw the conclusion that there's something wrong with us, that that we are broken, that we are just not as good as somebody else,

that we just weren't meant to have that. That we are destined to suffer. We are destined to live a smaller life than somebody who's living whatever the bigger life is that we are comparing ourselves to. And when we fall into that belief system, then we do limit what becomes possible. Remember, it always comes back down to think, feel, acts.

So whatever you're believing about yourself is creating your, the emotional experience you're having of yourself. And that emotional experience then is driving the actions that you take in regard to yourself and in your life and your future. And those actions then create the results or the outcomes. And so if we look at our lives right now and we think about what we have in our lives right now,

we can look at it just from a very scientific aspect and realize our we, our lives today, our outcomes are simply the result of the actions that we've taken before today. And that those actions were driven by the emotions that we experienced before today. And those emotions were created by everything that we believed before today. If we then carry those same belief systems forward with us,

then we will not continue to, to then we will continue to create the same results. We won't create something different. We have to change our belief systems before we are able to create a different outcome. And these belief systems are not only beliefs about what's happening around us externally with other people and other things, but also, and I would say even most importantly,

the belief systems that we have about ourselves. And this is where I wanna take a minute to really disentangle a, a long held belief, something that our like that has just totally gotten lost in our human experience. And that's what the starting point is. The starting point of you as a human was not a place of disadvantage. Your starting point wasn't behind the eight ball.

It wasn't less than, it wasn't disadvantaged, it wasn't not smart enough, it wasn't not enough in general. That was not your starting point. Your curriculum if you will, didn't include a whole bunch of stuff for you to learn. And here on the podcast, I know many times I've talked about how we are here to grow and evolve and change and learn and,

and I mean those things, but I wanna make sure that I frame them in a way that makes a lot of sense because when I say you're here to learn, I don't mean that you're here to learn new information because I believe that you actually already have all the information that you need. It's already inside of you. What you're here to learn is a discovery process.

You're here to remember, to rediscover, to reconnect with your true essence, your true nature, the way that you were born. And every single one of us was born at an equal point, an equal playing field. We were all born valuable and worthy and completely whole and unbroken. And we are all still all of those things. The difference between people who live their lives through a knowing of that and those who don't is simply the degree to which they have unlearned what the world has taught them since that time of birth.

We are conditioned by the world around us. There's just no way around it. We are conditioned, we are taught things is another way. You can look at this by the people around us, our friends, our family, our parents, our teachers, our clergy. The whole world has an opinion on how things should be done. And through our interactions with other people,

we learn things, we pick up things, we pick up opinions, we pick up belief systems, we pick up rules. And as we look at our experiences in life and we evaluate ourselves against the other humans that we come in contact with and people who come into our awareness and we see that their life is different than our life, and then in those moments when we recognize they have a life that we would like to have,

it's a normal conclusion for your mind to draw that they are more than and that you are less than or to start to tell a story how you are never gonna have that because you just aren't that that abundant or you aren't that privileged or you aren't that smart, whatever it might be. I want us to recognize here that there is no difference between the human,

the soul, if you will, the the person underneath all of what you see in somebody else and what's underneath you. We are all equally valuable and worthy and capable. And the difference is what the world has taught us, what we've believed and what we have. Not yet unlearned. You don't have to learn something new. Like everything that you need to know is already there.

It's just hiding by what's been stacked on top of it. This is so important because for many of us, I think it's easy for us to think that we have to go through this really hard period of learning to have a different kind of life, that we must struggle, that we must force. And then there's many of us that believe that it's just never gonna be possible.

That we can't possibly have enough time in this lifetime to learn the things that we would need to learn to have the lives that we wanna live. But I wanna really decrease that timeframe for you and bring you back to what's true is that you started with everything that you needed. It's always been there, you just haven't been able to utilize it, to tap into it because of what's been stacked on top of it,

because of your conditioning, because of what you've been taught. And every single bit of that can be unlearned, it can be deconditioned, it can be released as you release what does not serve you. And what I say, what doesn't serve you, what I mean, what does not serve your true nature, the essence of who you are, the essence of life as a human.

When you let go of what doesn't serve you, you rediscover what is already there. My friends, you've heard me say it before, you are the only one who knows what's best for you. And I strongly believe that because I know that you already have all of the answers to all of your greatest questions in life inside of you. They're just blocked out by all of this noise,

by all of this junk that the world has taught us is important by all of these obligations and responsibilities and expectations and rules that we have put on ourselves. And you have complete permission and ability to let go of as much of that as you want to. Now, us as humans in this human experience, we have put, you know, different things in place to try to help our society's function easier,

better to, to to thrive more as a population. And some of those things are really good and some of them just really aren't good, right? We all have our own opinions about the way that things should be structured. But regardless of what your opinions are about any of those things, what I don't want you to do is believe that whatever those structures are that are in place are here to limit you.

That you are limited indefinitely and in and inevitably by whatever structures might exist. Because you are more powerful than any of the structures in front of you. You are more powerful than any of the rules that you have been taught. Your true nature is one of power, of joy, of light, of love. It's not one of suffering. It's not one of disadvantage.

You are not destined to that. And many of us live our lives believing that we are always gonna be behind the eight ball, that we are always gonna be in a place of disadvantage, that we're never going to have enough or be enough. And what is really important for me to communicate today in the point of this entire episode is for you to realize where your starting point is.

Because I think that we haven't been very clear about that. I think this is not something that people talk about, and I think they probably don't talk about it because they just don't know it or they just have a hard time believing it. But I believe it very strongly that your starting point was one of complete perfection. And that what has happened since then is your life experience,

your human experience. It is not changing the essence of your soul, that who you are at that deep level, that personal essence kind of level, that is absolute. And in its absolutism, it is perfect, it is fulfilled, it is powerful, it is bright, and it is capable. And all of that is available to you in your human experience when you seek it,

when you intentionally want to remember, because you don't have to learn something new. It doesn't have to be hard. It just has to. You have to give yourself permission to release and let go. What the world has taught you to be different until this point in time. And the world is very influential, influential as a human, those people who are closest to us,

our parents, our teachers, our friends, our family, our clergy, people who we trust in our lives, many of those people are the exact ones who have led you to believe things about yourself that have you on the other side of being fully taken care of, as supported and nurtured. They're the people who have said things to you in your lifetime or taught you things about the way that world works that have you drawing conclusions about yourself,

that you are less than, that you are bad, that you aren't good enough, that have you feeling guilty, that have you feeling shame, that have you withdrawing that, have you not even trying because you have so little confidence in your own ability because you're believing what somebody on the other side has told you. But my friends, what I want you to know is those are all just other humans.

We don't even have to be mad at them. We just have to recognize that every human is in their own human experience right here, but underneath all of it, we are all equal. And when we can realize that really if we can let go of all the stories that we tell about each other and drop into our true essence and then function in our human lives from that aspect,

everything gets easier. Everything gets better from there. It's when we buy into the faulty belief system that we don't know enough that we have to learn a lesson before we can enjoy our lives. That puts a pressure on us that was never intended, my friends. You already have everything that you need. You already have all of the answers. There's nothing that you must suffer through in order for you to be worthy of experiencing amazing things in your life.

That's not how this works, but it's what the world has taught, many, many of us. And so today, I just wanted to share with you a perspective that maybe nobody in your life has ever offered you, which is that you didn't come here broken, that you didn't come here with something to prove that you didn't come here with a whole list of things that you are required to achieve or to do or to accomplish before you could be worthy of having the life that you want.

None of that is necessary. The dreams that you have for your life, the goals that you have for your future, the things that you wanna experience, go after them. You already have the means to do that inside you. The only thing that holds you back is what the world has taught you about yourself and what you're capable of. And your opportunity is to simply unlearn all of it.

It is not your true nature. Trust me on this. It is not your true nature. Your true nature is one of abundance. It is one of power. It is one of light. It is one of joy. It is one of love. And perhaps your only goal in this lifetime is simply to remember who you are, who you were before you ever dropped into this life,

and who you will be afterwards. Because who you are at your core, at your soul essence, who you are is perfect exactly as you are. And when you really start to embrace that, you can take the pressure off of yourself to be different than you are, and you can start to enjoy the life that you have. All right, my friends,

that's gonna wrap it up for this week. If you're curious about these kinds of concepts, I definitely recommend that you jump into our free course, spiritual Seeker 1 0 1. It's a just a quick little video course. I'll deliver it right to your inbox. You can get that over at cariwise.com/ss101. And I will see you soon. Bye for now.