Episode 147 | The (unintentional) Identities We Choose

In this episode Dr. Cari Wise explores the impact of our thoughts and words on our lives and careers, explaining that what we focus on, we create more of energetically. 

By shifting our mindset to one of abundance, we can attract more financial opportunities and success. This principle applies to other areas of our lives as well, such as weight loss or relationships. 

Dr. Wise emphasizes the importance of aligning our thoughts and words with our desired outcomes to create a more abundant and joyful life and career. 

She also discusses the impact of negativity and victimhood in the veterinary profession and encourages listeners to choose a more positive outlook, reminding us that we have the power to shape our reality and create the life we truly desire.

Key points include:

  1. The impact of thoughts and words on our lives and careers
  2. Creating abundance and flexibility in finances
  3. Shifting mindset and adopting a new identity
  4. The example of weight loss and changing identities
  5. The power to decide who we want to be and what we want our lives to be about
  6. The impact of negativity and victimhood in the veterinary profession
  7. Shifting perspective and focusing on the positive aspects of the profession


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Hi there. I'm Dr. Cari Wise, veterinarian, certified life coach and certified quantum human design specialist. If you are a veterinary professional looking to uplevel your life and your career or maybe looking to go in an entirely new direction, then what I talk about here on the Joyful DVM podcast is absolutely for you. Let's get started. Hello my friend. Welcome back to the joyful DVM podcast.

Today we're going to talk about something that most of us don't even realize is happening, but has a profound impact not only on our career satisfaction, but on our lives as a whole, and it all comes down to the way that we talk about ourselves, our lives, our jobs, our relationships, and everything around us. What we don't realize is that what we focus on in our lives,

we simply create more of energetically our lives align to however we're feeling and to what it is that we say that we want. The problem is that we don't even realize that when we focus on what we don't want, we're energetically aligning with it anyway, and that just create keeps creating more and more of the same experience for us. For example, if you spend a lot of time complaining about work,

talking about how hard it is to be in veterinary medicine, then you are gonna continue to have an experience of a veterinary medical career. That is hard. The reason is because your mind, by the way that the reticular activating system works, it's gonna keep showing you more and more of what you focus on. We literally program our consciousness with what we put our attention to.

So if we spend our time thinking about our careers through the lens of it being really hard, then that is exactly what we are going to experience. The same thing's true about money. If we spend our time considering our finances through a lens of lack and scarcity, talking about how we're always broke, how there's never enough, then that is gonna be the exact experience that we have regarding our money and our finances.

The opportunity for us to create abundance and to have more flexibility in our finances doesn't begin with working harder or even earning a higher paycheck. It starts first with aligning the vision to that. What are we focusing on? What are we basically telling the universe that we want more of? When we continue to just look at it through the lens of scarcity and the lens of lack,

talking about our lives as if we're broke all the time as we're struggling financially, then that is the identity that we have chosen. We've chosen an identity as somebody who struggles with money, just as in the prior example, we've chosen an identity of somebody who works in a profession that is really, really hard. Now, I know for some of you listening to this,

you might say, but Cari, this is true. This is my reality. And what I wanna challenge you with is whether or not you want that reality to continue. Because if you really want something different, we have to start thinking about our circumstances in a different way. The world teaches us that if we just work harder, if we just do different things,

that we will have a different experience. But that's not always true, and for those of you who've been around this mountain a few times, you know that just changing jobs or changing your financial circumstances doesn't end up creating the fabulous life experience that you hope that it would ex create. And that's because if we don't energetically align to the changes that we're making,

then we just keep having the same experience in a different set of circumstances. The key is to first align with the vision energetically. When we do that, we actually create a whole different experience for ourselves. And what's so fascinating about that is when we take on a new identity, one of empowerment, one of choice, the identity of somebody who gets to decide for themselves,

who creates their own reality, who makes their own happiness, then we are able to do all of those things and our circumstances don't even have to change. What's even more exciting about that is when we take on that new identity, we actually then have the capacity to make some changes that actually do have a profound impact and a lasting impact. And when we do that from that higher energetic state,

then those results are longer lasting. Anytime we try to make really big changes in our lives from pressure, from force, from an air, from a position of discomfort, whatever outcomes we might create, whatever results that we achieve, they're very difficult to hang onto, and that's because we have not adopted the identity of the person who has those results. We're still living in the identity of the person who doesn't.

So for example, if perhaps you want weight loss to be part of your journey and you decide that you're going to go on a diet and your logical mind knows exactly what you need to do to lose weight, you know you need to restrict your calories or change the types of foods that you're eating, maybe increase your activity, and so you force yourself to do those things day in and day out.

White knuckling your way through and you see the number on the scale drop and drop and drop. Eventually you may get to your goal, and when you celebrate and you let your guard down, how long does it take then for that weight to come back on? Many of us have been through this rollercoaster many times of this type of experience. This is just one example.

This can apply to many things, finances, relationships, not just weight loss. And that problem isn't that you're not good enough or you're not disciplined enough. That's not the problem at all. The problem is that you are trying to achieve a new identity of somebody, of a higher level of fitness from the ident, ident current identity of somebody who struggles with weight.

We have to first change that identity before we go on that journey, or at least during it, because otherwise, if we never release the identity of somebody who struggles with weight, then as soon as you hit your mark and you let off on yourself a little bit, you'll slide back into the old habits and return to your previous form. It's not that there's anything wrong with you,

I really wanna emphasize this, but the the key here, the thing that we all need to really understand is that we create our own experiences in this lifetime. There are things that are happening all over the world, really tragic, horrible things, and there are things that happen in our veterinary practices day out and day out that are sad and tragic and not enjoyable.

But if we adopt the identity, if we accept the identity of somebody who is victimized by the career that they chose, then there's no path forward from there. Then every time one of those tragic things happens at work or some client's a jerk, then we just continue to wear that identity as a victim of our career field. There's no way forward. There's no path to happiness from there.

And so for many of us, that path to happiness becomes this idea of leaving veterinary medicine behind this. When I get out of vet med, then I can be happy. Your identity of happiness of a person who is happy is then trapped and limited by your career. And I know for many of you listening to this, that does feel absolutely true.

But what I hope that you're hearing here is that you're not required to keep the identity of somebody who is victimized by their career, somebody who is victimized by their clients or by the work that they do. That identity is optional. The circumstances are the same for all of us in veterinary medicine. We all have cases that don't turn out the way that we want them to.

We all have moments where we don't feel like we know enough or we're good enough. We have all encountered a client who is just a jerk. But if we allow those circumstances to then impact what we believe about ourselves and we adopt an identity of the victim of our career, we limit everything in our lives. Not just our experience of veterinary medicine, but our experiences in our lives as a whole.

We don't realize the number of identities that we've picked up, and I have found that if I take a second to reflect on where I'm feeling frustrated, I can usually find an identity that I didn't even know I was wearing. I recommend that you consider doing the same. Consider what is it that you are frustrated with, and then notice that you've adopted an identity of somebody who struggles with insert whatever that you just identified.

And then ask yourself, is that the identity that you wanna keep as you move forward? My guess is that it's not because my guess is if you're anything like me, the things that you struggle with and the things that you're frustrated about are things that you don't want to continue to feel frustrated over. And that ability to have a different emotional experience around any circumstance is simply based on where we put our focus.

Perspective is everything. When we get caught in the weeds, especially in the world that we live in, that is so busy where we are just going from one thing to the next, to the next, to the next, it's very easy for us to start adopt, adopt, adopting all kinds of different identities, the identity of somebody who's tired all the time,

the identity of somebody who doesn't have enough time, the identity of somebody who is out of shape, the identity of somebody who never has time for themselves. Just think about the way that you talk about your life and recognize you are claiming identities through that, and you're forgetting the most important thing of all, which is at the end of the day, you always get to decide for yourself.

All these things that we have in our lives that we aren't happy with. There's some way that we keep deciding to have those things in our lives, which means there's also opportunity for us to decide otherwise. We are not required to believe the things that people have said about us in the past. So if you're carrying some kind of identity that was offered to you earlier on in life,

maybe from your parents or some teacher clergy, or even what some of your instructors in veterinary school or some of your colleagues since then, if somebody has said something about you and you've clinged onto that and you've like embedded that as part of your identity, I want you just to consider letting that go because you get to decide for you, who do you wanna be in this lifetime?

What do you want your life to be about? And my hope for you is that you wanna be empowered, that you wanna be the one in charge of your own choices, that you don't want to ever be a victim of what happens around you because you will never control what happens around you. And when we claim that identity of a victim, our wellbeing will always then be contingent on what's happening,

the things that we don't control. It's a rollercoaster that is exhausting to be on, and it also just fosters the cycle of negativity and commiseration and complaining and blaming. This is very much of what's happened in the veterinary profession as we have identified these areas where we feel frustrated, where we feel challenged, where we feel victimized, we continue to focus on that as a collective,

and as we continue to focus on those things, we then keep creating stronger and stronger identities of veterinary medicine victims. There is no empowered perspective through that. It is a much more empowered and even I would say, challenging perspective to choose something different, to choose a different outlook. But what I promise you is that as you start to choose a different identity in veterinary medicine for yourself,

you'll actually start to experience veterinary medicine in a much more fulfilling and joyful and easier way. The job isn't actually getting harder, it's the same job that it's always been for decades, but our experience of it will continue to get more difficult as long as we continue to talk about it through the lens of difficulty. Do you see how this all is connected?

Like I said, at the end of the day, you are the only one who decides for you. And so if you are unhappy with your circumstances, if you are unhappy with your life and with your job, there are choices that you can make for yourself. Those choices can begin with just changing the way that you view everything that's happening. And when you do that,

you actually will start to feel better right away. What we focus on, we create, and all of our emotion from a scientific perspective, all of our emotion is calibrated first by what we're thinking. The problem is that so much of what we're thinking is automatic, it's subconscious. We don't even realize that it's there. And until we are que we are forced to question it,

or somebody challenges us like I am to question what we're believing about any situation in our lives, we may not even recognize that we've been trapped in negativity, especially in situations like veterinary medicine where the vast majority of people in any given organization spend a lot of time complaining and ranting and being negative and stressed out. We don't even realize that we have taken on the identity of those different things.

Someone who's stressed out all the time, somebody who's angry all the time, somebody who's frustrated all the time, and we certainly don't realize how that bleeds over into all other aspects of our lives. So my friends, if you've been struggling, if you've been having a hard time, if you've been thinking that getting out of veterinary medicine is the only way you are ever going to be happy,

I want you to take just a second to decide. Is that the way that you wanna view your current reality and your future? You can make some changes simply by changing your perspective, doing what I call leveraging the space, slowing it all down, deciding for you what you wanna believe, and when you decide to take on a new identity to be somebody who is in control of their own destiny,

who has the ability to make their own choices, who is creating the best life they can for themselves, who is learning how to align their lives and their careers with who they are as individuals, the decisions that you make will be different. The attitude that you have will shift and your overall experience of your life and of veterinary medicine will change. So something to consider as you head through the week.

I hope this has been helpful, and I'll see you next time. Bye for now.